Taking Flight: Creative Parenting Part 8

Posted by on December 24, 2013 in Family Time, Natural Living, Sustainable Living | 13 comments

Through all of our travels, all the paths we have tread, we have not only kept alive the desire to homestead, but have taken steps to make it a reality as much as our situation would allow, as those of you who read this and my Yemeni Journey blog are most likely aware. A few weeks ago we decided that we had to make some big changes, and look for a new place to live. At first, we focused on this area because we had formed some strong friendships and liked many things about Kansas City. The children and I talked, and, after I explained everything to them clearly, they hopped on board, eager for whatever changes would come.

One of this year's beds, early on

One of this year’s beds, early on

My personal list of wants in a house was pretty simple. I wanted space to grow our own vegetables and fruits and hopefully get a few chickens in order that we could continue to move forward in our journey towards some measure of self-sufficiency. My husband looked at several properties, and it became clear relatively quickly that finding this space in the city was going to be very difficult, if not impossible. We began to talk about the house we’d owned in Liberty, NY, before moving to Yemen. The house itself was a “fixer upper” with a small yard, but we were able to have a flourishing garden and make connections throughout the community that are difficult to make in a more urban setting. We began to turn over the idea of looking at other areas in Missouri and seeing if we could find something in a small town or, even better, a rural environment. One day, as we were on one of our almost daily walks, we made the decision to spread our wings and see if we could fly.

The next day, Khalil was looking for properties on the internet. Our hope was to rent to buy, since we can’t deal in interest, but, as always, we found that if we kept our eyes, and our options, open, trusting in Allaah, the most surprising (and wonderful!) things would happen.

Khalil, through one of the goat farming forums he follows, found out about two twenty acre parcels of land in southern Missouri. One was rent to own, while one was to rent only. Upon contacting the person who owned the land, he found out that the one that was rent to own was taken, but the other was still available. I still feel the joy I felt when I received his email with a link to a description of the property and the contact information for the landowner. It sounded and felt just perfect for us. Once I called and spoke to Alice, I knew it was the right move, and it sounded like she felt the same way. So many connections, so quickly, and the more we learned about both the land and our potential landlady, the more we loved it all.

Deer tracks going through the yard of our new house

Deer tracks going through the yard of our new house

That was two weeks ago. We have since signed the contract and are moving in the middle of January, insh’Allaah. To say we are excited would be such an extraordinary understatement that I won’t bother. While my husband works on the technical aspects of the move, the rest of us are looking at chicken and goat breeds and planning next year’s garden. As we begin sorting, organizing and packing, I find that my time to write has dwindled a bit, thus the scarcity of postings on the blogs in the last few weeks. I am looking forward, though, to sharing our journey with you, step by step, as we make this transition and see what Allaah has in store for us!

Today after breakfast the children and I bundled up and went for a walk in the snow, all of us a riot of red noses, bright scarves and mittens. Later, as we sat up in the attic sipping hot chocolate that dear friends had gifted us with, I realized that in this, too, creative parenting comes into play, not only in the relationships we foster with each of our children, but in the bigger picture as well. What started out as two people dreaming of living on the land with a continent between them grew to include an entire family sharing that dream working towards it, and being willing to step off a cliff, together, mittened hands joined, knowing that insh’Allaah we will be granted the gift of flight.

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  1. Oh, I love all that snow. Rural snow looks so romantic and cozy. Congratulations to your entire family, my friend.

    • Yes! I have always LOVED snow, and this is the perfect type. Also because the house will be warm LOL!!

  2. Alhamdulilah ukhti how exciting. May allah facilitate your move, give u good neighbors, healthy animals and fertile land. May allah give your family health and peace of mind in keep u close to his teachings and remembrance. very happy for u sis.

    • Ameen! Alhamdulillah, I am looking forward to continuing my teaching online and, insh’Allaah expanding it, so I am looking forward to that as well, mash’Allaah. And with Allaah is the success.

  3. Alhamdulilah! Sounds beautiful, maa shaa Allaah. May Allaah Azza wa Jal make your move easy, place barakah in it, and bless you and your family with fertile land, Aameen! This is something I have wanted to do for awhile now. What goat farming forums did your husband look on? Inshaa Allaah if you could share resources it would be very much appreciated. BaarakAllaahu feeki!

    • I will ask him, insh’Allaah! Basically we read everything we can get our hands on, mash’Allaah, and attend seminars and such whenever we are able. Now to get the goats, insh’Allaah!

  4. Asalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,

    Mashallah I am so excited for you and your family! When you mentioned that you would be moving I was curious as to how far. As for the rent to own, I was under the impression you are paying a higher rent…so *should* you decide to one day buy, a portion of that rent would go towards the payment of the house. Which is okay, I just used to think it meant all the money goes towards paying off the house/land.

    Please keep us updated!! My family and myself are trying to stay patient as we pay off our land inshallah and can start building. Subhanallah it is so difficult to get things done here without interest, but by the Mercy of Allah, things just have a way of working out!!

    May Allah Aza wa Jaal bless you and your family for all that you do for your community and the rest of us!! Ameen.

    • Wa Aleikum Assalam wa Rahmatullah
      BarakAllahufeekee! Insh’Allaah keep me up to date with what you and your family are working on and towards, may Allaah put baraka in your efforts.
      I always thought that about the rent to own as well, mash’Allaah. I have heard in a few cases where people were actually able to put their whole rent towards owning the land, but I think you are right, most of the time that is not the case.
      You are so right about things working out, alhamdulillah, this is proven to me again and again in my life and the stories I hear from others.

  5. I know you will totally in your element! I can’t wait to see what you produce in your garden and the animals you will raise. My friend who blogs with me has a farm and the stories she shares are pretty amazing. Having a homestead will be such an adventure, and I will be along for the reading ride. May Allaah bless you in in fully, ameen

    • Ameen! BarakAllaahufeekee. Insh’Allaah! We already have our noses deep in seed catalogs, and are thinking of what kinds of chickens and goats to raise.

  6. Salam Alaykoem Sister,

    Alhamdullilah for your new lodging. I also love and miss the snow and haven’t been back in so long or seen the snow in soo long.

    Even though you are so happy I hope you don’t give up on Hijrah. You were such a classic and a beauty in Yemen. It secretly breaks my heart even though I understand.

    Love your sister stuck in Libya,


    • Wa Aleikum Assalam wa Rahmatullah
      No, I will not give up on that, insh’Allaah! Huge chunks of my heart still reside in Yemen, and insh’Allaah one day we will be able to return. I ask Allaah to make that possible and easy for us, Ameen.

      • Yes InshaAllah and then you can be with your grand kids and your son Mujaahid who I think is also a big part of you. Maybe you are just trying your best to get on your feet so you can go back.

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